Resources

Worksheets from 3000 Orgasms Book

The following worksheets are designed to be read in conjunction with the content in my book, “3000 Orgasms: How I went from a Sexless Marriage to a Multi-Orgasmic Wonderland.”

• Chapter Nine: A New Relationship with Sex

• Chapter Ten: Building Sexual Confidence

• Chapter Eleven: Mindful Sex

• Chapter Twelve: Communication and Connection

• Chapter Thirteen: Sustaining Sexual Excitement

Recommended Reading and Listening

Disclaimer: Some of the links to these resources may be affiliate links, meaning I may earn a small commission if you make a purchase through them. These recommendations are a mix of works referenced in the book, 3000 Orgasms and others that have provided valuable insight for me in my work as a sex and relationship coach.

Books

• Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski
  A foundational book for understanding the science of sexual desire and arousal, packed with insights and practical advice.

• Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
  A brilliant exploration of how to maintain desire in long-term relationships.

• Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire by Dr. Lori A. Brotto
  A game-changing book that explores how mindfulness practices can help women reconnect with their bodies and their desire.

• The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin
  A deep dive into the dynamics of consent and how it can transform intimacy.

• The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work by Terrence Real
  Essential reading for understanding modern relationships and creating deeper connections.

• Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá
  A provocative look at the evolution of human sexuality and its implications for contemporary relationships.

• The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
  Insightful and empowering, this book offers a fresh perspective on love, sex, and relationship dynamics.

• The Elusive Orgasm: A Woman’s Guide to Why She Can’t and How She Can Orgasm by Vivienne Cass
  A practical and compassionate guide that addresses the challenges many women face in achieving orgasm, with actionable strategies to overcome them.

• Sex for One: The Joy of Self-Loving by Betty Dodson
  A timeless exploration of self-pleasure and empowerment, celebrating the role of solo sexuality in personal and sexual growth.

Podcasts and Audio Resources

• Savage Lovecast by Dan Savage
  A candid and often hilarious podcast offering advice on all things sex and relationships.

• Where Should We Begin? by Esther Perel
  Listen to real-life couples’ therapy sessions that provide profound insights into the human experience of love and conflict.

• The Turn On by Erica and Kenrya
  A podcast celebrating the intersection of sex, erotica, and Black culture.

• Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy by Dr. Laurie Watson and Dr. Adam Mathews
  Practical advice for couples looking to enhance intimacy and communication.\

• The Hookup by Triple J
  An engaging podcast offering advice and honest discussions about sex, love, and relationships for a modern audience.

• Sex with Emily by Emily Morse
  A fun, insightful podcast that tackles a wide range of topics related to sex, intimacy, and relationships, blending expert advice with candid conversations.

Websites and Blogs

• OMGyes
  www.omgyes.com
  A unique and research-backed resource for exploring women's pleasure.

• Sex With Emily
  www.sexwithemily.com
  Dr. Emily Morse’s blog and podcast, offering advice on everything from communication to sexual health.

• The Gottman Institute
  www.gottman.com
  Resources for building stronger relationships, based on decades of research.

Other Resources

• Brené Brown’s Work on Vulnerability and Connection
  www.brenebrown.com
  While not exclusively about sex, Brené’s work on vulnerability and courage is transformative for intimacy.

• Wheel of Consent Workshops and Resources by Betty Martin
  www.bettymartin.org
  Learn more about consent, boundaries, and the joy of giving and receiving.

• ‘Nice’ Sex Tracking App
  https://nicetracker.app/
  The app Vern and I used to track our sex lives. All the data in this book come from the Nice app.

• Gottman Card Deck
  www.gottman.com/card-decks
  A fantastic resource offering prompts and exercises to improve communication, connection, and intimacy in relationships.

 This list is far from exhaustive, but these resources have been instrumental in shaping my understanding of intimacy, connection, and pleasure. I hope you find as much value in them as I have.