How Tracking 3000 Orgasms changed my life
and how it can change yours too
What gets measured gets improved — even in the bedroom.
After two years trapped in a sexless marriage, I hit rock bottom. I felt disconnected from my desires, unsure if intimacy would ever feel exciting again. Post-divorce, I made a bold decision: I would reclaim my sexual identity. But not just that — I’d track every intimate encounter along the way. My journey to 3,000 orgasms in one year not only transformed my sex life but also reshaped how I understood myself and my pleasure. Here’s what happened when I turned my intimate life into a data-driven experiment — and what you can learn from it.
The screenshot from the Nice app, showing my orgasm count for 2020.
Why I Tracked My Orgasms
You may wonder — why on earth would someone log their orgasms? It started with a simple curiosity. I wasn’t just seeking pleasure; I wanted to understand what worked for me. I was used to tracking my fitness and health statistics. When my partner told me about the “Nice” app (not an affiliate link), a sex tracking tool, I decided to use it for a different kind of workout.
At first, I tracked orgasms as a fun experiment. But soon, I realised it was about more than just the numbers. Tracking gave me insight into patterns I’d never noticed before — like how morning sex almost always led to more orgasms than late-night sessions. It wasn’t about hitting a specific goal but about understanding my body’s rhythms and preferences. And guess what? Awareness unlocked even more pleasure.
The Science of Pleasure — Yes, I Got Nerdy
The more I logged, the clearer my patterns became. For example, I learned that when I switched up routines — whether with a new toy or a different setting — the intensity of my orgasms increased. It turns out variety really is the spice of life! I even did statistical analysis (hello, ANOVA) to confirm my hunches, such as when my pleasure peaks were most likely to occur (spoiler: late mornings were golden).
Logging orgasms wasn’t just fun; it made me feel in control. Every entry became a mini celebration of what worked, and even the “meh” moments were valuable learning experiences. Was I too tired? Stressed? Tracking helped me see patterns not just in pleasure but in how external factors — like stress — could affect my experiences. It wasn’t just biohacking; it was self-awareness in the most intimate way possible.